You know the body language: eye contact and all that. What’s harder is knowing whether he’s interested in a relationship with you, or in getting his rocks off in time for breakfast. 

1. He’s brilliant at eye contact

Eye-contact is extremely seductive – and no-strings men know this. These players are all about getting sex, and they’ll only stay for breakfast if it involves hand relief and a quick goodbye.

Players are masters of body language. They know to lean in as you speak, to brush your arm with theirs and let your knees touch for a moment longer than necessary. Most of all, they’re very good at eye contact.

A guy who wants you for more than sex will be too nervous for all this stuff. He’ll get goose bumps and mess up his words. He’ll find it especially hard to meet your eye, because it’ll make him blush like a baboon’s bum.

2. He talks about himself more than about you

He wants to impress you, because that’s his way into your knickers. He’ll talk about his exotic travels, his amazing career and the women that want him.

But he wouldn’t want to know much about you.

3. He avoids serious topics

He won’t discuss personal matters, because he doesn’t want to run the risk of you hugging him or, horrors, opening up your own baggage.

4. Friends aren’t part of the conversation

A no-strings man doesn’t want to involve you in his life. His friends are more important than you are, so he won’t chat to you about them and he certainly won’t introduce you.

5. He chooses your date venue

6. He’s dismayed by a gift

If you’ve been chatting online for a while, you might think it’s nice to bring along a little pressie. Big risk.

If he opens it with blushing pleasure and says “my turn next time,” you’re doing well. If he says “you shouldn’t have,” goes silent and looks uncomfortable, he’s terrified that you’re about to start sending out wedding invitations.

7. He spends on you

This is a tricky one. Not all bill-splitting men are just after sex, and not all bill-payers are after a relationship. In fact, lavishing you with drinks and expensive dinner is part of the player’s sex-getting strategy.

8. He can’t keep his hands off you

If you’re on a 10th date with a guy who can’t control his public displays of affection, lucky you! Always nice to have a boyfriend who thinks you’re the sexiest thing alive.

But most men will only paw you on a first date if they don’t want a relationship. They know that women want gentlemen, but if they’re only after sex they don’t care about the impression they’re making.

9. He doesn’t chat or cuddle after sex

Once he’s got you back to his place (or yours) it’ll be fast and furious. He won’t spend time worrying about how to please you, because he’s the one who counts. Afterwards, he’ll roll over and sleep!

10. He doesn’t call

If a man doesn’t call after you had sex on a first date, it doesn’t mean that he’s shy or playing hard to get. It means he’s got what he wanted.

A man who really likes you will call, probably within 24 hours of your first date. It won’t be a booty call, either. He’ll want to chat, and to hear the sound of your voice, and he’ll be terrified. Be nice to him – he could be around for a while.

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