You know how you feel you'll lose him by not letting him know you're interested in him...
When you chase a man, you not only tend to unwittingly push him away, but in the end, you don’t give him the chance to show you how HE really feels about YOU.
And yet, I know how frustrating it is to sit back and let a man drift away. We want a man to know we’re interested in him. We want to make it easy for him to ask us out again. We want to seem enthusiastic and easygoing.
We know we’re not supposed to be chasing after him, and yet we’re doing it in ways that we’re not even aware of.
We think being “friendly” is the same as showing interest in a man. We are taught to think that if we act “casual” a man won’t notice that we’re actually chasing him.
But, the truth is, we are. And when we do things that seem like we’re “chasing” to a man, it’s a turn off for him. He feels smothered and feels an aggressive “vibe” from you that does nothing to inspire him to want to get closer.
Here are some things we may think of as “friendly,” that are actually CHASING a man away
- Calling him before he calls you. This includes calling him because you heard or read about something interesting, or because you can't wait to talk to him about something. It also includes calling to ask why he hasn’t called you.
- Initiating contact. E-mailing him, texting him or dropping by his house without an invite or in any way attempting to initiate some kind of contact.
- Making suggestions or plans. Inviting him to come and join you, or in any way acting like the social director of the relationship.
- Asking him how he feels. This includes, especially, asking him how he feels about “you” or the “relationship.”
These are things we do almost without even thinking about it. These are things that feel natural to us, and we excuse them by thinking we’re just being “friendly.”
Culled from havetherelationshipyouwant.com
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